Tuesday, April 24, 2012
The BIG One
In less than two weeks I will be 30.
Even though it’s the big dreaded number, I have to say I am pretty stoked about turning 30. My 20′s were rough; full of so many mistakes and growing pains, wrought with immaturity and a lot of self discovery (and also a lot of doing what other people expected of me.) And though I am still light years behind my peers in this whole growing up and self awareness thing, I’m glad I have my 30′s as a fresh decade.
I started thinking about all the life lessons I’ve learned in the past 30 years–the things I wish someone had told my 20 year old self–and made a list of 30 bits of wisdom I wish my younger self would have started out knowing. So, to commemorate my upcoming birthday, here they are: 30 bits of wisdom from a soon to be 30 year old (AKA “30 Mistakes of Mine to Learn From”)
1. Don’t go to college just because you’re “supposed to.” Don’t get a major or choose a job just for the money, but at the same time don’t buy into this “get a job that fills you with joy and purpose” crap. Find something you’re good at that also is a means to providing for your family. Your career is not who you are, it’s just what you do 5 days a week.
2. Stay away from people who always tend to have drama going on. Usually they are the reason why.
3. Never, ever, ever sit around waiting for a guy to call. “A watched pot never boils.”
4. Exercise and eating well make you feel more energetic, rested, and confident. Do them.
5. Sugar and caffeine do the opposite.
6. Seek to be pretty, not hot. Do not model your actions, words, or dress after a Kardashian. Find a beautiful, godly woman you admire and emulate her.
7. Don’t search for God’s purpose for your life. Read His word and the instructions in there. Do them. (This will eliminate soooo much stress in your life.)
8. Realize that Jesus and your future husband are two different people. The cute sayings on Pinterest about waiting for a man who “understandably stands silent when you’re mad” are lying to you. Get over your unrealistic expectations of what a godly man is and find out for real. Seek counsel from godly women you know. Real men aren’t found in a Nicholas Sparks novel.
9. Be cynical of doctors. They treat only what they know and they know surprisingly little.
10. Learn what it means to really work. 8-5 behind a desk isn’t hard work by the way.
11. Talk to people from different stages, backgrounds, and demographics. Meeting people and seeing how they live will change your mind about a lot.
12. When it comes to clothing, if it’s not beautiful or comfortable, don’t buy it.
13. Get over Facebook. Each time you write a status ask yourself, “Is this in any way an attempt to gain attention?” Normally it is. Get off Facebook, and go take a walk.
14. Guys who lie to you are poison. Eat an ice cream cone and move on.
15. Maturity is often messy. Put on your big girl panties and deal with it.
16. Never be in a relationship of any kind with another adult where they are consistently taking more than giving.
17. Use correct grammar. It makes you seem smarter than you may actually be.
18. Don’t argue with someone to try and prove your point. Few people are actually open minded. Share what you know and be done. Don’t let them bait you.
19. Be thankful. It has the power to change perspective.
20. If you don’t like something about yourself, change it. “That’s just how I am” is a crap excuse.
You call is your personality. Jesus calls it sin.
21. Learn how to drive stick shift. The older you are, the harder it is to learn.
22. God is only good to us. Write this on your body with a sharpie until you remember it even in the darkness.
23. Never, ever look at a situation and think it’s hopeless. God is a redeemer–of sins, of people, of pasts, of relationships. Never forget this.
24. Pray like your life depends on it. Because it does.
25. Work hard. Don’t be that person that is surprised to actually work while at work.
26. "Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” Look at your group of friends. Edit that group. Move on.
27. You know that part in the Bible where Jesus says to take care of widows and orphans? He meant it. What’s your part?
28. Obedience should be immediate or it’s not obedience. Remember this when following God and when parenting your children.
29. Go outside every day. You need air and sunshine.
30. Do not stick a utensil in a blender while it is running. You will be tempted to think, “I bet I can barely tap that strawberry down towards the blade and it will be fine.” Many a wooden spoon has died this way.